How is buying a home like falling in love?
By:Vicki Kirk Holton-Kirk Holton Real Estate Team
How many times have you heard someone say..” we fell in love with our home the minute we walked in the front door!”
How many times have you heard a man or woman say “I knew he/she was for me from the first moment I laid eyes on him/her!”
Love takes many forms, but falling in love with a house IS like falling in love with a person. You have an emotional feeling the moment you walk in. You have viewed many homes…some traditional, some more contemporary, some very relaxed, and some neat and tidy. If you are traditional, viewing a gorgeous contemporary home is much like being fixed up with a fabulous, tall, dark, 3 piece suited man if you prefer the “blonde beach boy” type. There is nothing wrong with the man, but the chemistry just isn’t right.
Much like the home….perfect in every way, but just not for me.
And when you DO find the right home…, much like love, you tend to notice the good things and turn a blind eye to the more negative aspects. The endorphins go to work and somehow the faults, much like the beginnings of love, are glossed over. “It will need a new roof in 5 years, the basement is damp, the driveway has cracks, but we can deal with that later, etc, etc.” And in the “people world”… “She talks a little too much, he watches football all day, she’s a lousy cook, he drinks too much beer, we can deal with these issues later.” On and on goes the list of imperfections. But life is not perfect, right? Love is not perfect, people are not perfect, and no home is perfect.
Then comes the building inspection….out come the drawbacks…can I live with this or can’t I? Will they fix this for me or not? Like dating after about 3 months….can I live with this? Can I get him/her to change? Can we fix this?
Ahhh..then comes the acceptance or rejection……
Hopefully, with love AND with houses, the answer is:
YES, I can accept you and love you… as you are. I can commit to you for better, or for worse…I have fallen in love…..